How Do I Learn to Trust Myself Again? Learn How to Recover From Past Diet/Exercise Failures

If you are over 25 you’ve probably tried and quit several diet or exercise programs.

And for many, that cycle leads to a lack of trust in oneself.

This is one of the reasons why we’ve been talking about trusting ourselves this month. As having trust in yourself is key (and our 2nd pillar of wellness) to starting and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Some of us already know that we don’t trust ourselves.

Many of us don’t feel that way, but aren’t really that motivated to try another program. And while that may be true, let’s talk about it…

Here are 5 surefire signs that you probably don’t trust yourself.

1. Procrastination: Not getting around to starting or completing something. Waiting for the stars to align in the perfect moment is a sign.

2. Fear of failure: Avoiding challenges or opportunities because you're afraid of failing suggests a lack of confidence in your own capabilities.

3. Seeking validation from others: Relying excessively on others' opinions or seeking constant reassurance can indicate a lack of trust in your own judgment.

4. Difficulty making decisions: Feeling overwhelmed or indecisive when faced with choices may suggest a lack of confidence in your ability to make the right decision.

5. Self-sabotaging behavior: Engaging in behaviors that undermine your goals or well-being, such as procrastination or self-destructive habits, can be a manifestation of low self-trust.

Did you feel any of those?

If so, now you’re probably wondering what to do about it.

Well, here are 5 practices (that I personally use) to build trust in yourself:

1. Meditate/Pray: Especially if you can make time at the beginning of your day. When you take time to intentionally connect with Source before you go into the world, you gain clarity on who you REALLY are. So, when you venture out into the world and find yourself doubting your capabilities, you feel the deviation from the truth and can reconnect.
   

2. Reflect on past successes: Don’t dismiss the fact that you have survived 100% of your worst days. Remind yourself of the times when you've overcome challenges or achieved your goals, especially the ones you thought you couldn’t. Every single memory is hardcore proof that you can and you will again.

3. Set meaningful standards for yourself: I’m not a fan of setting goals. I believe that having standards for yourself is more sustainable. Start with small, achievable standards that align with your values and aspirations. And if it helps, act like you are creating standards for any new partner who wants to enter your life. Ex: Given the space to rest when you are tired. Spoken lovingly to, when you feel vulnerable. Tell you, you are beautiful. Have confidence in your abilities. Feeds you well when you are hungry. Loves you unconditionally.

   If you can demand these things of a partner, you can certainly set an example by treating yourself with the same standards. And holding yourself accountable to your standards will build momentum and increase your confidence in your ability to succeed.

4. Give yourself grace: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when you need it the most when facing hard times and challenges. You are amazing, but you are also human. Which means we are beautifully ‘flawed’. Giving yourself grace will help you feel resilient and develop self-acceptance, which are essential components of self-trust.

5. F*ck Around and find out: Instead of waiting for the perfect moment or seeking certainty, take action! But make it fun, by playing a game with yourself. Ask yourself “I wonder what would happen if ____” and do the thing you are afraid/don’t trust yourself to do. For no other reason than you are curious about what would happen. Take a look at the result, realize that you didn’t die and decide how you might do it again but differently, better or not at all. Embrace this as a learning process. Taking action in the face of uncertainty and removing the pressure for perfection and inserting curiosity, will build confidence and trust in yourself.

Is this helpful? Do you think you can give these a try?

Remember that building self-trust is a journey that takes time and practice.

Be patient with yourself.

Celebrate all progress, no matter how small! (this is a major key!)

And with commitment to self, dedication to living a better quality of life and gracious self-awareness, you will learn to have a strong sense of self trust and confidence in your ability to live a fit and healthy lifestyle.